Each of partners develops into yourself the internal estimated center. Value or meaning of everything, what you endure on experience, is defined not by what your partner speaks, not judgments of your parents, not the rules of your church, not imparted at school sights, but only by one sensation, arising at the deepest levels of yours being. For example, all these external influences, can drive to that available situation with your matrimonial sex is correct, lawful and natural and only proves love. You know everything of it. And nevertheless you can know, in the most secluded corners of yours being, also that actually this manipulation of one partner by another, that it is only pretence, the deceit, which does not have any relation to true love. So far as you have internal center of estimation, you rely on such judgments and they cause your further behavior. Thereby also it is supposed that you are not operated with those “it is necessary” and “it is impossible”, which our culture in all its aspects with such readiness substitutes instead of the values, which have been found out by you and for you.
When the person develops in all directions described by me, becoming independent and unique, then the person represents the worthy partner — not the slave and not the slaveholder, not shade and not echo, not always the chief and not always the subordinate, not self-confident person and indisputable not boring partner.
Development of both partners should be equal.
And at last, the efforts directed on awakening of original own “I”, so justify themselves that almost inevitably you will persuade and encourage the partner to follow to your example and to rejoice to each step made by him. So it is pleasant to develop together, to live with two unique and weaved lives!
I should add that in case, when this development of the independent person occurs only to one of partners, it is not encouraged and it is not cultivated in other partner, then the increasing distance between partners can become insuperable and the mutual relations sliding directly in precipice, can rescue only miracle. You should remember this and try to develop with your partner with the same speed.
Classes with young people, who are going to get married, in the conditions to have frank and sincere dialogue, is one of the important ways to help people to build stronger mutual relations.
The increasing popularity receives courses for married couples. These courses can bring considerable advantage to many spouses, but in case of deep dissonance and bad compatibility of spouses it can provoke their distance from each other or divorce. However, for the overwhelming majority it will promote only to interpersonal dialogue, to readiness to speak about difficulties openly and to solve them, to the best comprehension of weak and strong sides.
If you really want to have strong relations, you should always support and understand each other. Good luck!
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